quotations about approval
What the superior man seeks is in himself; what the small man seeks is in others.
CONFUCIUS, Wisdom of Confucius
An amazing thing happens when you stop seeking approval and validation: You find it. People are naturally drawn like magnets to those who know who they are and cannot be shaken!
MANDY HALE, The Single Woman: Life, Love, and a Dash of Sass
Don't seek approval. This may be the toughest suggestion for you to follow -- and the most important. Whether you'te a teenager seeking approval from your peers, a middle-aged parent seeking the approval of your kids, or a man or woman seeking the approval of a partner, it all amounts to the same thing. You're giving your personal power away every time you seek validation from someone else for who you are.
TRISH MACGREGOR, Soulmate Astrology
If you are an approval addict, your behaviour is as easy to control as that of any other junkie. All a manipulator need do is a simple two-step process: Give you what you crave, and then threaten to take it away. Every drug dealer in the world plays this game.
HARRIET B. BRAIKER, Who's Pulling Your Strings? How to Break the Cycle of Manipulation and Regain Control of Your Life
Approval is a lover who will always break your heart.
SAMMY RHODES, This Is Awkward
Eventually you just have to realize that you're living for an audience of one. I'm not here for anyone else's approval.
PAMELA ANDERSON, Esquire, Jan. 2005
Man's desire for the approval of his fellows is so strong, his dread of their censure so violent, that he himself has brought his enemy (conscience) within his gates; and it keeps watch over him, vigilant always in the interests of its master to crush any half-formed desire to break away from the herd.
W. SOMERSET MAUGHAM, The Moon and Sixpence
He who seeks only for applause from without has all his happiness in another's keeping.
OLIVER GOLDSMITH, The Good-Natured Man
The conformist is filled with the need for approval. He can never get enough. He runs from one person to another seeking compliments and endorsements for his behavior and actions. As a child, he turned to parents and teachers; when he started to work, to his boss and fellow workers; in marriage, he turned to his mate. He must always have someone around to pat him on the head and tell him he is doing a good job. This bolsters up his poor self-esteem.
ROBERT ANTHONY, The Ultimate Secrets of Total Self-Confidence
Do right, and public approval will follow; either the next hour or the next century.
J. C. LETTSOM, attributed, Day's Collacon
The people who receive the most approval in life are the ones who care the least about it--so technically, if you want the approval of others, you need to stop caring about it.
WAYNE W. DYER, Your Ultimate Calling
A motto of the human race: Let me do as I like, and give me approval as well.
IDRIES SHAH, Reflections
I much prefer the sharpest criticism of a single intelligent man to the thoughtless approval of the masses.
JOHANNES KEPLER, attributed, The Radical Humanist, 1969
The named it Ovation from the Latin ovis, a sheep.
PLUTARCH, attributed, The Concise Columbia Dictionary of Quotations
Do not trust to the cheering, for those very persons would shout as much if you and I were going to be hanged.
OLIVER CROMWELL, attributed, The New Speaker's Treasury of Wit and Wisdom
We're high on the adrenaline of feeling, even though we know it's fleeting and evanescence. And we're getting worse -- checking texts and emails and Facebook every five minutes, always searching for that next hit of feeling, that next morsel of approval.
DEBORAH MEYLER, The Bookstore
Self-approval is acquired mainly from the approval of other people.
MARK TWAIN, Corn-Pone Opinions
Not all approval is good news and not all disapproval is bad news. Imagine that you meet somebody and you think that he likes you. You wonder why. Then it dawns on you that he is a taker and that he probably likes you because he sees that he can take advantage of you. You realize that he approves of you for a rather unflattering reason. When you think through the meaning of this approval, it feels more like a criticism than a compliment. Well, what if we turn this scenario around: you meet somebody and you think he doesn't like you. You wonder why. Then it dawns on you: this person is threatened by your intelligence. You realize that his dislike of you is actually an indirect compliment. This disapproval confirms to you something that you do value about yourself. My point? Evaluating yourself solely on the basis of others' approval or disapproval can be misleading. The mere fact of others' approval or disapproval of you is meaningless unless you understand and agree with the reasons behind others' evaluations of you.
PAVEL SOMOV, Present Perfect
Once we realise that the wish for love and approval is a universal motivator, we can begin to dance with the flow of love by helping others to meet that need through their connections with us. And as we help others to meet those needs by being with us, the positive flow of giving Love comes back to us.
PERRY WOOD, Secrets of the People Whisperer
Acceptance is approval, a word with a bad name in some psychologies. Yet it is perfectly normal to seek approval in childhood and throughout life. We require approval from those we respect. The kinship it creates lifts us to their level, a process referred to in self-psychology as transmuting internalization. Approval is a necessary component of self-esteem. It becomes a problem only when we give up our true self to find it. Then approval-seeking works against us.
DAVID RICHO, How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving