We settle for so-so sex because most of us don't know how sexual we could be; we know only how sexual we are. How sexual we are has been shaped by decades of indoctrination by ... family and friends, teachers, religious leaders, and romantic partners, not to mention a society that worships a bewildering fusion of childlike sexual innocence and cynical, nihilistic hedonism.... So what is normal? It all depends on what's normal for you.
ANITA H. CLAYTON, Satisfaction: Women, Sex, and the Quest for Intimacy
I think sex education should include enhancing a girl's sexual self-image and self-esteem, and give her the tools to say "no", and ultimately "yes", when the time is right.
ANITA H. CLAYTON, Book World live discussion, Feb. 13, 2007