quotations about relationships
What I want is to be needed. What I need is to be indispensable to somebody. Who I need is somebody that will eat up all my free time, my ego, my attention. Somebody addicted to me. A mutual addiction.
CHUCK PALAHNIUK, Choke
It's important not to lose who you are in a relationship just because it's nice to cuddle with somebody.
SCARLETT JOHANSSON, Seventeen Magazine, May 2007
No matter how successful a relationship may be, both sexually and emotionally, the lack of money can hamper and undermine, little by little, even the greatest passion.
LAURA ESQUIVEL, Swift as Desire
The present relationship existing between husband and wife, where one claims a command over the actions of the other, is nothing more than a remnant of the old leaven of slavery. It is necessarily destructive of refined love; for how can a man continue to regard as his type of the ideal a being whom he has, be denying an equality of privilege with himself, degraded to something below himself?
HERBERT SPENCER, An Autobiography
Almost all the time, you tell yourself you're loving somebody when you're just using them.
CHUCK PALAHNIUK, Invisible Monsters
A relationship isn't something that has to be created in a day or perfected in a day. Part of the game is to keep working on it. It's something that'll always be just a little flawed.
NORA ROBERTS, Summer Desserts
The more you move in rhythm with someone, the closer you become with that person.
GEORGE LEONARD, The Silent Pulse
The best relationships are not made of two people becoming one, or one person subsuming or submitting to another, but of two people hand in hand, supporting each other's individuality and going through life together, headed in the same direction.
BETHENNY FRANKEL, I Suck at Relationships So You Don't Have To
A good relationship is a contest of love.
MATSHONA DHLIWAYO, attributed, goodreads
Why does a man who is truly in love insist that this relationship must continue and be "lifelong"? Because life is pain and the enjoyment of love is an anesthetic. Who would want to wake up halfway through an operation?
CESARE PAVESE, This Business of Living
We have all heard that the best relationships are composed of two whole and complete individuals coming together as one. It's a lovely theory, but I don't know anyone whole and available to date, do you? If we waited until we were healed before we had a relationship, there would be no hope for any of us. I think the best relationships are made up of two people willing to do whatever it takes within that relationship to heal. Then at least we stand a chance.
CYNTHIA MORGAN, You're Already Hypnotized: A Guide to Waking Up
Thus both man and woman are dehumanized in the traditional conception and their relationships are made immoral. They live in intimacy without genuine love and care. Their best relationships are made purely utilitarian; woman lives in them for security and man for selfish needs. The relationships are not viewed as intrinsically valuable, whereas it is these relationships which, if not so viewed, nurture the best sentiments of human beings and enhance their autonomy and worth.
ROOP REKHA VERMA, "Femininity, Equality, and Personhood", Women, Culture, and Development: A Study of Human Capabilities
In most breakups, neither person is awesome, and both are looking out the relationship window, sick with vertigo, ready to jump. Whoever jumps and pulls the ripcord first, wins. The prize is an intact ego.
HEIDI K. ISERN, "The responsibility to fall out of love is on you", Quartz, August 5, 2016
Weddings are the biggest relationship killers out there. If you can survive the wedding, they say, the rest is a piece of cake.
NOAH HAWLEY, Other People's Weddings
When a match has equal partners, then I fear not.
AESCHYLUS, Prometheus Bound
I do think on some basic level we are animals and by instinct we kind of breed accordingly. But, as much as I believe that, I work really hard when I'm in a relationship to make it work in a monogamous way.
SCARLETT JOHANSSON, London Telegraph, December 10, 2006
You don't want to have to be the man and the woman in the relationship. I always say you want a man who can fix the toilet.
PAMELA ANDERSON, attributed, Celebrity Hub
It doesn't matter what kind of world we live in as long as we have each other.
WALTER WYKES, The Profession
We live in a time when the deepest and most painful need of the human person is for intrinsic worth, unconditional acceptance that does not depend on being good, right, controlled, conformist, or on being pretty, young, successful, rich, employed. Or on being straight, white and male. But if people do not hear the word that says, 'yes, you are accepted' through the meaningful framework of faith; if they do not hear it through their belonging within an accepting community; if they do not hear it through their closeness to the land; then people increasingly and only seek and hope to hear it in their personal, and especially sexual, relationships.
KATHY GALLOWAY, introduction, Dreaming of Eden
Good relationships make people happy, and happy people enjoy more and better relationships than unhappy people.... Conflicts in relationships--having an annoying office mate or roommate, or having chronic conflict with your spouse--is one of the surest ways to reduce your happiness. You never adapt to interpersonal conflict; it damages every day, even days when you don't see the other person but ruminate about the conflict nonetheless.
JONATHAN HAIDT, The Happiness Hypothesis