quotations about virginity
Virginity is conceptual, it is a social construction. When we have sex for the first time we do not actually lose anything. It does not change our identity, it is not life-altering and it does not affect our worth. It is simply a new experience.
SKY JORDAN, "It's time to rethink the social construction of 'virginity'", The State Press, February 6, 2017
The desert of virginity
Aches in the hotness of her mouth.
ARTHUR SYMONS, "Bianca"
Like a virgin, hey
Touched for the very first time
Like a virgin
With your heartbeat
Next to mine
MADONNA, "Like a Virgin"
Lo, when man's force doth ope
The virgin doors, there is no cure nor hope
For what is lost.
AESCHYLUS, The Libation Bearers
My brothers were never warned about the dangers of exposing too much skin. My brothers were never taught their worth lay in their virginity. Men who have sex aren't unsticky Band-Aids or flavourless pieces of gum -- they're players. Purity culture teaches young women that they need to control the brakes of sexual responsibility. Male agency is ignored, and men and boys are characterised as aggressive and brutish. Both genders are denied their humanity.
JEAN BALCHIN, "Enough of the shame game", Otago Daily Times, April 20, 2017
Every Harlot was a Virgin once.
WILLIAM BLAKE, For the Sexes: The Gates of Paradise
I wish I were a virgin again. The only fun I ever had was holding out.
CLARE BOOTHE LUCE, The Women
Loss of virginity is rational increase; and there was never virgin got, till virginity was first lost.
WILLIAM SHAKESPEARE, All's Well That Ends Well
It is the virgins, the daughters of our country, the rose buds, the birds of song, who make our homes so beautiful.
MRS. SIGOURNEY, attributed, Day's Collacon
In the end this shall be for me sufficient, that a marble stone shall declare that a Queen, having reigned such a time, lived and died a virgin.
ELIZABETH I, Collected Works
I always thought of losing my virginity as a career move.
MADONNA, attributed, Madonna Unauthorized
Men are afraid of virgins, but they have a cure for their own fear and the virgin's virginity.
URSULA K. LE GUIN, "The Space Crone", Co-Evolution Quarterly, summer 1976
Virginity of body only has meaning where there is virginity of heart.
R. CROUZEL, Origen: The Deans of the School of Alexandria
Virginity is typically seen as a finite resource that each person is born with and can only spend on one person. It's like if each newborn baby is given a lucky dollar with the words "My Virginity" written on it in permanent marker. That lucky dollar can only be given to one other person, and then it's taken out of circulation and incinerated. No refunds, no returns, no take-backsies. And this lucky dollar seems to be more important for baby girls to hold onto than baby boys. For some reason, her dollar is worth more.
ALLISON DANISH, "Virginity is a social construct", The Rocky Mountain Collegian, March 8, 2017
The word "virginity" is just so loaded with so much meaning and you're the same person after you've had sex, you haven't lost anything or given anything away and it's a healthy, normal stage, so I want it to be celebrated but I don't want anyone to stress about it. We're a virgin every time we have sex with a new partner because we've never had sex with them and we don't know what they like, they don't know what we like.
CHRIS DONAGHUE, Loveline with Amber Rose, April 27, 2017
Dear woman who just started having sex: Congratulations! You have begun your journey of discovering a new layer of your existence -- an integral part of your identity, and a new way of communicating and connecting with others. Losing the cloak of virginity is only the first step, and perhaps the easiest and the simplest, even though it may not seem like it.... Don't feel guilty for being sexual. Years of systematic oppression of female sexuality has ingrained guilt and shame in us when it comes to our carnal desires, and we still feel it at some level. Your sexuality doesn't make you immoral or dirty or whatever else you may associate with it. It makes you a Goddess.
PRACHI GANGWANI, "A Letter To The Woman Who Just Started Having Sex", iDiva, April 27, 2017
For in pure maidens, knowing not the marriage-bed, the glance of the eyes sinks from shame.
AESCHYLUS, fragment, Toxotides
Nature abhors a virgin -- a frozen asset.
CLARE BOOTHE LUCE, The Women
Maybe the act of love came too late. As a career move, I should have lost my burdensome virginity at thirteen or fourteen, when there would have been no question of lasting attachment and no desire for one. As it was, I shook when I removed my clothes and I cried after it was done, not out of pain or disappointment but out of an up-rush of muddling emotion which twenty-four hours later I was ready to call love.
HILARY MANTEL, An Experiment in Love
Then when her lovely limbs,
Oft lovely deem'd, far lovelier now beheld,
Thro' all your trembling joints increase the flame,
Forthwith discover to her dazzled sight
The stately novelty, and to her hand
Usher the new acquaintance. She, perhaps
Averse, will coldly chide, and half afraid,
Blushing, half pleas'd, the tumid wonder view
With neck retorted, and oblique regard;
Nor quite her curious eye indulging, nor
Refraining quite. Perhaps when you attempt
The sweet admission, toyful she resists
With shy reluctance; nathless you pursue
The soft attack, and push the gentle war
Fervent, till quite o'erpower'd the melting maid
Faintly opposes. On the brink at last
Arriv'd of giddy rapture, plunge not in
Precipitant, but spare a virgin's pain;
Oh, spare a gentle virgin! spare yourself!
Lest sanguine war Love's tender rites profane
With fierce dilaceration, and dire pangs
Reciprocal. Nor droop because the door
Of bliss seems shut and barricaded strong;
But triumph rather in this faithful pledge
Of innocence, and fair virginity.
JOHN ARMSTRONG, "The Oeconomy Of Love"